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How To Be Unhappy

We can't tell you exactly how to get happy, but Dorothy Rowe has some good advice on how to stop yourself from being happy. And here it is.

1. Always be right.
If you grow up believing that the world is exactly as you see it, you will soon get into difficulties because events will keep disappointing your expectations.

So, if you want to be unhappy, spend your life insisting that your point of view is right even when everything associated with it is going wrong.

2. Discount simple pleasures
Many of us are forced by circumstances to live and work in ways which bring us little joy. We protect ourselves against a sense of unending misery by putting into every day some little activity which we enjoy.

So, if you don't want to be happy, don't pay attention to small pleasures.

3. Blame Yourself.
If you want to turn unhappiness into depression all that you have to do is tell yourself that you are worthless because of your role in causing whatever problems you have.

When you are unhappy other people can comfort you and you can comfort yourself, but when you are depressed you feel nothing of the comfort other people give you and you treat yourself as your own worst enemy.

4 . Refuse to tolerate the unpleasantness of change.
Most people find it very difficult to see their intellectual knowledge about happiness manifested in the way they act and feel. This is because they resist change.

There is always a risk that trying new things will lead to disaster and bring more unpleasantness than they already have. So, fear of unmanageable danger makes people settle for the status quo.

Therefore, if you want to be unhappy, all you have to do is maintain this negative prediction. And, lucky for you, that doesn't take much effort at all.